Conversation Starters.

If you’ve been cheering me on, I see you. This isn’t for you. But some people need a reminder…

Let’s be honest. Some of you are not here because you care. You’re here because you’re uncomfortable.

You see someone trying something messy, something loud, something joyful, and your first instinct is to correct, critique, or “offer advice.” You come bearing opinions like they’re gifts. You say, “I’m just being honest,” or “I’m telling you this because…”

I didn’t ask you how to be better. I didn’t ask you how to be more palatable. I did not ask you what I should or should not write about because, as my blog states, Regular Ramblings on Whatever I Want. Ramblings. Not magnificent essays worthy of prizes, but messy Blossays. About what whatever I want. 

So let’s get clear: Are you here to support me, or are you here to drag me?

Support doesn’t always mean agreement. It doesn’t mean co-signing every idea I have. It doesn’t even mean you think I’m a good writer. But support does mean discernment. It means asking yourself: Is this feedback useful, kind, and requested? Or is it just a reflex? Your discomfort disguised as concern?

Some people can’t stand to watch others break free. It rattles their own sense of control. So when you show up as yourself, too loud, too soft, too weird, too healed, they cringe and try to pull you back into the version of you that fits their box of ideas.

But let me say it loud for the ones in the back: I am not interested in being digestible. I am not here to be corrected by people who haven’t done the work for themselves. And I am not here to carry your projections just because you said them nicely.

If my joy threatens you, ask yourself why.

If my boundaries upset you, ask yourself why.

If my words feels abrasive to you, ask yourself what part of you is used to being in charge of other people’s light.

This season of my life is for unapologetic expression. For claiming joy without earning it. For creating without consensus. For trusting my own voice more than the noise.

So if you’re here to clap for me, thank you. If you’re here to challenge me with love and humility, thank you. If you’re here to walk beside me without needing to lead, thank you.

But if you’re here to drag me back into a version of myself that made you more comfortable, save your breath. I’ve already let that person go.

You can find my church here: https://substack.com/@holymischief007?r=5eoofo&utm_medium=ios

Check it out, if you’re interested. It’s in its creation state. Bear witness as it comes to life.